Why when journalists write about sex is it so joyless, so sexless?
And no bummery, neither!
Though over in The Guardian today a feature, The Magic Number: How many people have you slept with?, does its bit to smash social stereotypes by interviewing a gay man (Paul, 20) who has a sex life that would embarrass a panda ('three partners').
At my age, a lot of gay men are quite sleazy. Straight men are probably the same. People sleep around, and it’s not my scene, so finding a long-term partner can be difficult...
It’s very easy for gay men to find sex. If I wanted to have sex tonight, I could probably find someone, but I wouldn’t feel the connection. I could go on Grindr, chat someone up and invite them round, but I don’t like the idea of inviting a stranger into my house.
I miss people actually talking to each other, instead of being online. You see 90s TV programmes where people go up to someone in a bar and say, “Hi, can I get your number?” And I think, that would never, ever happen these days...
He sounds a right barrel of laughs, doesn't he?
It is popular for the media to paint anything gay men do as a sign that they are somehow 'damaged' (once by homosexuality itself, but more usually now from growing up in a homophobic world), but Paul really does seem like a pretty good example of the latter.
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